Hi Reader,
Picture this.
I'm an awkward 10 year old with huge hair (this was before people learned that there was an art to cutting curly hair), huge glasses, and the feeling that I will never, ever be cool enough.
My friend Jo asks me, "Hey, are you going to Jon Sar's birthday party?"
My face reddens as I realize I wasn't invited and she was.
Then, throughout the day, it slowly becomes clear that I am the ONLY one in the class who wasn't invited.
I feel like the biggest loser in the entire world.
Fast forward to age 36.
Back from the hospital after having my daughter, I'm scrolling on Facebook when I realize that someone I thought was my friend didn't invite me to her birthday party or her anniversary party.
I send her a text, "I'm sad that you didn't invite me to your birthday party."
We end up talking on the phone and I realize that she has been slowly detaching herself from me over the past year. After we hang up, she unfriends me on Facebook.
Late nights when I'm up feeding my new baby daughter, I feel deeply sad and hurt about my ex-friend. It's so hard to let go.
Then today, something interesting happened. My friend Jo (yes, the same one from 5th grade) was telling me about her upcoming birthday dinner. The restaurant only had space for four people, and she was wrestling with who to invite. And I noticed something remarkable: while the thought of not being included made me a little sad, I realized I would genuinely be okay if she chose three other people to celebrate with.
This moment stopped me in my tracks. Not because I didn't care, but because I could feel how far I'd come. That 5th-grade wound, which had still been raw enough to bleed at 36, had finally begun to heal.
I could look back and see my slow evolution.
When I wasn't invited in 5th grade, I assumed there was something wrong with me, not that the kid in question was in the wrong.
At age 36, I had the courage to reach out and share my pain with my ex-friend. I felt the pain of losing a friend, but I didn't make it mean that I am a loser.
And today, at age 42, I am able to see that my worth isn't determined by who includes me or excludes me. That sometimes friendships shift and change, and that's okay. That I can feel a twinge of sadness without it destroying my sense of self.
This evolution didn't happen by accident or just because time passed. It happened because I've done the work to understand myself, to heal my wounds, and to recognize my patterns. Through working with tarot and astrology, I've learned to map these cycles in my life and meet them with growing wisdom each time they appear.
As I reflect on this journey, I can't help but think about timing and cycles. With the new year approaching, I see so many of us getting ready to make 2025 the year we finally become that perfect version of ourselves we've been chasing.
What if instead of trying to reinvent ourselves, we chose to meet ourselves with unshakeable acceptance and love, flaws and all?
What if we embraced the inevitable challenges ahead and recognized that they are literally designed for us - not someone else, not a "better" version of us, but this version - the version that's vulnerable, imperfect, and already equipped with everything we need to grow through whatever comes our way?
This is where astrology becomes such a powerful tool, because it helps us understand what energies we'll be working with in the upcoming year and how these fit into the larger story of our lives. It's like having a cosmic weather forecast - not to tell us exactly what will happen, but to help us prepare to meet whatever comes with greater awareness and self-compassion.
I have a few spots open for complementary Year Ahead Cosmic Clarity Calls where we'll explore your vision for 2025, what might be holding you back, and how we might work together throughout the year to help you build an unshakeable relationship with yourself.
Because here's the truth: deep healing and growth happen when we have steady support through life's ups and downs. Just like I needed tools and guidance to transform that birthday party wound from a source of shame into a testament of growth, you don't have to navigate your cycles alone.
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Together, we can make 2025 the year you build the self-trust and inner resources that will serve you not just next year, but for all the years to come. So that each time a challenge appears, you meet it with more wisdom, more self-compassion, and more confidence than ever before.
With warmth, Daniela
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