That time I ignored the Death card (for 5 years!)


Hi [FIRST NAME],

Before I dive into today's story, I want to remind you that I'm offering complementary 2025 Year Ahead Cosmic Clarity Calls to help you prepare for 2025. In these 75-minute sessions, we'll unpack your vision for 2025 and help you understand how to use your unique blueprint, aka your birth chart, to make that vision a reality.

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Now, let me tell you about the Death card...

It was 2016, and I was sitting cross-legged on my bedroom floor, trying to quiet the knot in my stomach as I pulled cards about my marriage. The Death card slipped out of the deck - again. The third time that week.

I quickly shuffled it back in.

Looking at that stark image, I knew what Death meant in tarot - transformation, endings, necessary changes. But I wasn't ready for what it was trying to tell me. Not even close.

Sure, I felt lonely most of the time.

Especially when my husband stopped talking to me for days to "punish" me for asking him to do things like washing the pot after I made chili or spending more time with me instead of playing video games.

I thought about leaving him at least once a month, so pulling Death wasn't exactly a surprise.

And yet...I'd spent five years married to my husband, moved to Miami with him so he could pursue his dream of becoming a doctor, gave up my community in Denver to be with him.

If I left him...all of that would just go to waste.

On top of that, I was terrified I wouldn't be able to find another partner. Before I met my ex, I thought I would never meet someone who really understood me. If I left him...would I end up being single for the rest of my life???

I remembered how good it was in the beginning. How loved he made me feel. How secure I felt with his body next to mine in bed. I couldn't just...leave, could I?

So I kept shuffling that Death card back into the deck. For five more years.

Here's the thing about intuition, tarot, and astrology - they're incredible tools for understanding ourselves and our patterns. But sometimes, even when the cards are literally screaming at us (looking at you, Death card), we need something more.

We need someone who can help us see our blind spots. Someone who can hold space for us as we gather the courage to face what we already know deep down.

I wish I'd had someone to help me understand why I kept shuffling that Death card away. Someone to help me explore what was beneath my resistance. Someone to show me how to work with these insights instead of hiding from them.

That's exactly why I'm offering these complementary Year Ahead Cosmic Clarity Calls. Because I know what it's like to see the signs but not know how to move forward.

In our session, we'll look at what 2025 has in store for you and how you can meet it with courage instead of resistance. We'll explore one key pattern that might be holding you back and discuss how to work with it rather than against it.

But wait - you might be wondering what happened next with that Death card situation...

(Spoiler alert: It wasn't done with me. Not even close. In fact, what happened next literally changed everything. But that's a story for next time, so keep your eyes on your inbox next Monday. 😉 )

Warmly, Daniela

P.S. If you've ever known something in your gut but weren't ready to face it, you're not alone. Let's explore how understanding your cosmic cycles can help you move forward with greater clarity and confidence. Book your call here.


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I’m a coach who uses tarot and astrology to help self-doubters transform their relationship with themselves so that they can stop playing small and create the life they want. I believe that tarot and astrology are a ton of fun…and when you use them on a regular basis, they are truly powerful catalysts to creating the life you want. I write about how I use these tools in my life on a daily basis.

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